So I just put it out there. If I'm going to talk the honesty talk, I've got to walk it too.
"A, can I talk to you for a second? Are you cheating on me with another project that you go missing each morning?"
"No, of course not. I've been buying materials and getting second opinions on the problems."
"OK. Just checking."
Well, he was clearly shaken by my question and spoke with my husband later.
"Your wife is tough."
"She is, but what makes you say that?"
"She thinks I'm "cheating" on her by working another project."
"I'm not, I'm just getting supplies and stuff."
When my husband retold the story, I asked him if A seems nervous or annoyed. He said, a little of both. So should I apologize? Don't I have the right to ask? Some contractors have several projects going at once but he said he doesn't do that, but given that his other guy has been MIA all week, one can only assume it was another job. Why do I feel so bad for asking the question?
Well, apparently, he's also upset with the fact that I've asked them to be out at 5pm. Today, I said stay as long as you need. He left around 6:30pm after cleaning up, plus fixing a few minor household things like the slow draining tub and the loose banister. I think we both feel a little bad about today.
When he left, I said "So what time should I expect you tomorrow?" trying to gauge if I should push him about being late.
"Between 8am and 8:30am."
Jokingly I said, "Does that mean 9am, 9:30am?"
"No, no, 8am, 8:30am."
I don't know if he took it as a gentle dig or a bitchy slap... we'll just have to wait and see what tomorrow brings.
Tomorrow, I'm going to call our homeowners insurance and see if we can't get some money back for the shower leaking. And tomorrow, I'm going to tread lightly. I don't want to offend anyone who has power tools. Certainly, not until he finishes the kitchen.